One final thought about listening in the journey of parenting adult kids ...
Carl Rogers, a great twentieth century psychotherapist wrote:
"The great majority of us cannot listen; we find ourselves compelled to evaluate, because listening is too dangerous. The first requirement is courage, and we do not always have it."
Why are we tempted to evaluate, rather than listen to, our adult kids?
What is so dangerous about listening?
Why does listening require courage?
And why don't we have the kind of courage needed?
I am not going to answer those questions for you.
Ponder them yourself.
And in your pondering, may you wander right into the answers.
And may your answers lead you to have the courage needed to listen to your adult child, no matter how dangerous it feels.